“Whatever you do in the face of a crisis is a coping pattern (Italics added). Ev
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“Whatever you do in the face of a crisis is a coping pattern (Italics added). Even if you do nothing, that is one way of trying to cope.” (Lauer & Lauer, 2012, p. 301) Chapter 13 addresses family crises and concludes with a section on coping patterns.
Choose one of the types of crises described in Chapter 13 of the Lauer & Lauer text (e.g.,drug and/or alcohol abuse, one of the types of family violence such as child abuse, spouse abuse, incest, or parent abuse) and describe how the ineffective ways of coping (denial, avoidance, and scapegoating) might look if they were applied to this type of crisis. Then choose at least one of the effective ways of coping and describe how this coping pattern might look if it was used during the same type of crisis.
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I would take verbal abuse done by any family members be it husband wife, or parent - children etc. Verbal abuse is very danegours when it is done by the own family members. A person who is always close to his family would often get lost or confused or sad if the family is not giving him any peace. He would seek peace from outside eg his workplace, schools, friends etc. Which would lead to more gap and increase the negaive thoughts towards each other as well.
As far as coping strategy is concerend denial or avoidance are not the ways. Such ways would lead to ignorance of problems, avoidance would give temporary relief but may increase the chance to frustrate somewhere else which may lead to any kinds of addiction. Due to all these strategies family members may never understand each other well and would continue to live like that.
I guess discussing the problem by keeping yourself calm is the solution. As well understanding the nature of each and every member in the society. Having some family activities such as picnics, or outings helps in bringing family close with each other.Another way can be resucing idealistic expectations, travking own behaviour and thinkning about the interest of other person. Controlling on verbal abuse by techniques such as counting numbers or meditation would also help to much extent. Allowing the situation to get off the heat and then disussing over it after 1 or 2 hours.
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