Hello can anyone answer this discussion reply please thank you I think that rape

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Hello can anyone answer this discussion reply please thank you

I think that rape culture is at least in some way prevalent in American culture. Some explanation has to exist for the high rates of rape within colleges for women: according to the book, "In a given calendar year, nearly one in 20 U.S. college women will be the victim of a completed or attempted rape, according to 'The Sexual Victimization of College Women,' a 2000 Justice Department report. During a typical five-year college career, that means as many as 20 to 25 percents can become rape victims" (Rothenberg, 2016). I don't think that any of the examples shown are exceptions to the rule, they indeed all contribute to rape culture... Especially those magazine ads. They look incredibly distasteful; I find it hard to believe anyone would let those into their publications.

However, I think that it is too narrow to imply that rape culture solely is something that applies to women, as the book also gives statistics for males: "About one in three homosexual men, one in five bisexual men and one in 10 heterosexual men reported experiencing unwanted sexual contact during their lifetime, according to the 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence released by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention" (Rothenberg, 2016). It's crucial that rape victims are considered universally, rather than through a single lens of reference. Helping all victims is the most critical part of creating a better, more accepting culture in the United States.

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Rape culture / sexual need???

                     God created Adam from the dust in HIS own image, and gave this world to rule all the species –plants and animals, mountains and ranges .But still God found Adam needs a helper / a companion, so he created a woman from the rib he took from Adam .

Adam said, Eve is being created from “This is now bone of my and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. This we read in our Bible, how man and woman were created.

This can be a primitive understanding man and woman needs each other in all means –love, care and as a mate.

The famous Psychologist of all times, Abraham Maslow – wrote a paper on                    ”hierarchy of needs” portrayed in the shape of a pyramid with the largest, most fundamental needs at the bottom-ie: physiology, safety, love /belonging, esteem and self-actualization at the top of the pyramid. Physiological needs such as, water, and food are metabolic requirements (sexual competition )for survival of all animals, including humans .

Sexual gratification is like a need of air and water to all animals and humans. In humans its intertwined with love and belongingness . as we can see the pyramid –the physiological need of sex –gives sense of safety ,love and belongingness in a relationship.

The other psychologist Freud’s, believed that human beings were sexual beings right from the start. He was inspired when he noticed a baby nursing at the mother’s breast which illustrated the example of mature sexuality –baby sucking satiated from breast and falling asleep with flushed cheeks and blissful smile which he saw has pro type expression of sexual satisfaction in later life .He also believed that sexual excitation is not restricted to genitalia, as pleasure is achieved through erotic attachment to potentially any idiosyncratically defined area of the body.

Freud explains ,our early relationships with parents and caregivers help us to form a “love map” that persists throughout our lives, referred as “transference.” Freud pointed out that as “re-finding” it. Hence individuals select partners that remind them of their mother/father. Our Loved One Becomes a Part of Ourselves. Freud noted that the characteristics, beliefs, feelings and attitudes of those we love become incorporated into ourselves–part of the psyche. Fantasy is an Important Factor in Sexual Excitement, Freud observed that sexual excitement comes from three directions: the external world (relationships, sexual history), the organic interior (sex hormones) and mental life (sexual fantasies). In our sexual fantasies we often conjure up all kinds of strange and “perverse” scenarios which add to sexual excitement and hopefully lead to climatic pleasure. This is quite normal and it doesn’t mean that we actually want to engage in such scenarios (or maybe we do). Think about it, Valentine’s Day is a sexual and romantic fantasy. Many of us love the day, others loathe it, and some are ambivalent and scared. All perfectly normal. Though we choose to engage or don’t.

                            One of the biggest differences between woman and your man is the fact that he experiences sex as a legitimate physical need. Just as body tells you when you're hungry, thirsty, or tired, man’s body tells him when he needs a sexual release. Man sexual desire is impacted by what's around him but is determined by biological factors, specifically the presence of testosterone in his body.

Immediately after sexual release, men are physically satisfied. But as their sexual clock ticks on, sexual thoughts become more prevalent, and they are more easily aroused. The physical need for sexual release intensifies as sperm builds in the testicles. The body continues to produce and store sperm, although sperm production fluctuates based on levels of testosterone and the frequency of sexual release.

The best way for a woman to understand this dynamic is to relate it to another physiological need. When a woman delivers a baby, experience of milk building up in breasts a few days after giving birth. The buildup of breast milk becomes annoying (and even painful) until the milk is expressed. AT times it is embarrassing experience of leaking breast milk when it was not expressed. A male's semen buildup is sometimes released through nocturnal emissions if it is not otherwise relieved. Just as with breast milk, sperm production tends to "keep up with demand." The more often a man has sex, the more semen his body is likely to produce.

As women, we don't experience the physiological drive for sex in this same way. There is no buildup that demands release. Instead, hormonal fluctuations drive our sexuality. Female sexual hormones are largely determined by two factors: the female reproductive cycle (menstruation, ovulation, pregnancy, menopause, etc.) and a part of the brain called the hypothalamus.

Discussion – RAPE –

                           Above we discussed the man-woman are two different individuals , with wants and needs according to their physical and mental differences . When we see this Rape or sexual abuse it is quite disturbing to see why man act violently – where its rationally and scientifically proven man has needs ,but why he has to take it out violently ?

What sex means to MEN ?

1)Men connects through sex- Men think sex is one way to stay in a relationship , they feel to unite to the partner .They feel secure when the partner gives priority to care about is feelings and needs .

2)Sex is a way to stay close: Even after a fight men see sex as to reiterated , they see physical connection to their mind . This is your bond, and this is how you show that you love each other. Sure words are nice, but this very physical act helps him to see that things are good and that you are happy with one another.The importance of sex in a relationship to him means that there is a true bond present and it’s alive and kicking.

# May be that could be a reason , a man violates his spouse sexually – in his feeling of insecurity and to get connected with his partner , to show his obsessiveness .

3)Sex is a way to unite, if sex isn’t present then he’s immediately concerned and thinks that something is wrong

4)The male ego is often tied to sex -A man’s ego is very fragile. Even in animals male partners always try to prove its strength –through fight or in peacock dance to attract its mate. It’s ego and super ego –Freud’s theory where for men – he have to prove himself through his sexuality .

5)Men see sex as a celebration- where they feel the ultimate release , pleasure and belongingness and power

6)Men love fantasies: Men always see sex and relationship as tow separate things , where he can get physically aroused by seeing a naked women photo , but still want to remain faithful to his family . At times men are afraid to speak out their fantasies to their wives or to partners in fear of mock or they will judge them .This can also lead to office affairs and they take as signals when women dress up provocatively

Men needs sex as their physical needs , but psychologist and studies shows that it could be

1) anger – to show their male ego to the victim , that they are superior

2) Power assertiveness – the ultimate way to defy or show their power is when a person is sexually assaulted , to make the victim feel helpless and to make them feel vulnerable and ashamed.

3) Sadistic rape – to give more pain and shame to the victim to have a gratification .The reason could be the assaulter was treated in a vulnerable state during his past time .

4) Sexual gratification – Animal satisfaction of release of lust , no proper way to gratify the need .

Conclusion : Sex is a beautiful interaction between man and woman which brings them physically ,mentally .Where a man and woman gives themselves mutually to each other . It’s a ultimate need of all species to mate. But the pleasure and passion always has to be felt with love . When there is a imbalance in growing stage or physical /hormonal changes –it affects not only the person but also the society. But the question still remains unanswered will lust over rules …violence to another human .

( hope the discussion helps :)

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